Dear Insecure Girlies — A Letter to all the girls in the world
Let’s just start by exposing myself, shall we?
Like so many of the girlies out there — yes, I mean a whole army of us — I’ve wrestled hard with insecurities, especially about how I look. For years, I didn’t like my appearance. I fell into eating disorders. I wanted to shrink into the background, hoping no one would notice or judge me… because I was already judging myself harder than anyone ever could.
Sound familiar?
Somewhere along the way, I started to realize that all those nagging insecurities were rooted in the same thing: the fear of not being good enough.
But I had to ask myself… Good enough for what?
My parents' approval?
Friends’ validation?
A future boyfriend?
Success? Love?
Really, Grace? That’s what I had to ask myself. Why was I thinking like this? It felt so shallow — but so real.
A Spiritual Reality Check
If you're a faith girlie like me, this one might hit:
Genesis 1:27 – So God created mankind in His own image; in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.
Genesis 1:31 – God saw all that He had made, and it was very good.
Reading that stopped me in my tracks. We are made in the image of God — the Creator of the universe — and He said it was very good. That truth began to gently chip away at my self-hate.
Because let’s be honest: beauty standards? They come and go. Trends change with every scroll. What one person finds stunning, another may not notice. Beauty is subjective. But to God? You are beautiful — always, at every age, through every season. That beauty doesn’t fade.
The Beauty of Aging (Yes, Really)
God created life cycles — and yes, that includes aging.
Just like we can see beauty in a flower blooming, then gracefully withering, our own physical changes over time are part of a divine design. It’s not a flaw — it’s a feature. When we surrender to the rhythm of life God created, we can actually find peace and awe in the process.
Isaiah 45:9 – Does the clay say to the potter, ‘What are you making?’
Who am I to question God’s craftsmanship?
Real Talk: I’m Still on This Journey
Let’s get this clear — I’m not free from insecurity. I’m still walking this out, still catching myself in those self-critical moments. But I’ve learned that I have a choice in what I focus on.
If you grew up with low self-esteem like I did, it’s so easy to spot 100 things “wrong” with yourself. But what if — just what if — we started paying attention to the things that are right?
Yes girl, believe me, you have them.
The Gift in the Struggle
Here’s a thought: what if having insecurities actually helps us grow?
Imagine if I had zero insecurities. If I thought I was a 10/10 at everything. Sure, I’d probably have more confidence, but would I still develop humility? Compassion? The drive to grow?
Maybe not.
Humility, to me, is one of the most beautiful human qualities. It’s not the same as insecurity.
Insecurity is rooted in fear.
Humility is rooted in awareness — knowing our limits and being okay with them.
We’re all a mix of strengths and weaknesses. That’s why teamwork exists! One person’s “flaw” might be another person’s superpower. Heck, your own “flaw” might be your superpower — just in a different context.
For example:
If you’re super detail-oriented and maybe a little OCD, creativity might be tough — but you'd shine in project management or operations. What’s seen as a weakness in one area is often a gift in another.
A Gentle Challenge for You
Let’s reflect together. Take a moment to ask yourself:
What do I like or appreciate about myself?
What am I insecure about? And why do I believe that’s “bad”?
What would happen if I made peace with that insecurity instead of fighting it?
If that insecurity disappeared tomorrow, would I finally feel whole — or just find something else to fixate on?
These questions don’t have to be answered perfectly. Just explore them. Be curious.
Final Sister Talk
Dear insecure girlies — you are not broken. You’re not behind. You’re not less-than.
You are a work in progress, a divine creation, and a beautiful part of a world that needs your uniqueness. Insecurity might be part of your journey, but it doesn’t have to be your identity.
So let’s keep healing, growing, and cheering each other on.
You’re not alone.
With love,
Grace 💕
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